My work focuses on couples who come into therapy when the communication has broken down and their spouse or partner are not supporting each other the way they have in the past. What has happened to turn the laughs into tears? Each couple has their own set expectations and beliefs.The relationship starts off in a state of bliss or the honeymoon stage where everything seems to run smoothly. This stage can last months or even the first few years however it does end when the newness wears off. Within a certain period of time the dynamic between the couple feels empty, lonely and leaves a sexless marriage/relationship to contend with between the two people. A few things I have learned watching couples is they can easily take advantage of each other without realizing it. We do not know how to read each other’s minds and often times we do not recognize or admit the red flags we see. It is up to the couple whether they can be honest about their wants and needs and be willing to do the work. Trying to change a Spouse will never work so the key is always be willing to only work on yourself. Couples are two independent people who will bring out the best in each other and sometimes trigger each other’s pain so they can experience growth. It is how we talk to one another that will help us to heal our wounds from inside out.